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Monday, June 29, 2020

NOT "WHAT" BUT "HOW"

Greetings all. I hope you find this helpful...

Regardless of how good a “thinker” we may think we are, we can always improve. (Our egos, of course, tell us we’re already excellent at this task but...well, THINK again.) We can all improve on our thinking. But more, we can each do so instantly--right here right now--no matter where we are, what we’re doing or what our circumstances. And with improved cognition comes improved living--directly and indirectly, individually and communally, personally and globally. This is true because, whether we are consciously aware of it or not, the connection between our thoughts and our actions is 100% organic. Thoughts lead. Actions follow. If how I think is my root system. What comes of my thinking is my tree. It’s who I am--both the Jerry that I experience and the Jerry that YOU experience. And obviously, the same is true for the YOU that both you and I know :-)

This may all sound terribly simplistic. But if it does, it’s deceptively simplistic--which is the way wisdom works. It’s why thinking does not come naturally--even if we think it does. I know. Counterintuitive. After all, we think all day long. Of course we get this!

Not so fast. This level of “self” awareness is something we have to train into our brain. We must consciously, that is, mindfully pay attention to our thoughts not just to ferret out the foul ones but more importantly, to learn how WE think.

Once we accept this challenge--and this would be a good time to say the Serenity Prayer to yourself--it actually becomes fun to (first) observe, and (second) transform how we actually think and what comes of it. The really good news? The better we get at our thinking, the better we get at everything else. Literally.

This is why “how” we think is actually far more significant than “what” we think.

TODAY.
DO YOURSELF & THE WORLD A FAVOR
TAKE TIME TO THINK ABOUT HOW YOU THINK

Saturday, June 27, 2020

BLACK AND BLUE

Your colors so rich,
you black and you blue,
each bold and beautiful
no matter the hue.
Each brings to the table
your own sense of pride, 
yet your colors brighten 
when you stand side by side

But wait. There’s a third word. 
The one in the middle. 
Conjunction its function,
so fit as a fiddle. 
This wallflower word
behind black...before blue,
though innocuously wedged,
speaks brazenly true:

“You’re inseparably linked,
you black AND you blue,
my presence between:
proof synced through and through!
You can fuss. You can fight. 
You can burn through the night, 
but nothing can stop me
making one of you two.

“So listen, I beg,
not to me but each other
since deep in your color, 
you’re of the same mother.
Compassion-fed courage 
will lead you to see
the becoming beauties
you’re both meant to be.”

This latest “un” 
of an unrest so old,
resolution of which
feels lifeless and cold,
awaits hearts and healings
and new narratives told
of a much older story: 
All Love's Colors Unfold.

The what, when and how of it,
have yet to appear,
but the why and the who 
seem perfectly clear:

All lives are dear.
Yes, all lives are dear.


Monday, June 22, 2020

TOO EASY

Greetings...and a thought for your day...

TOO EASY

“Now Naaman was commander of the army of the king of Aram. He was a great man in the sight of his master and highly regarded. . .but he had leprosy.” So begins the marvelous Old Testament story of Naaman--a man who almost did something really stupid: succumbing to “That’s too easy!’ thinking.  

He’d asked the highly-revered Israelite prophet Elisha to come and heal him. After some diplomatic intrigue that involved a servant girl, a wife and the kings of two countries, Elisha came. But! He came with one absolutely unacceptable condition--at least to Naaman’s thinking. Elisha instructed Naaman, “Go, wash yourself in the Jordan seven times.” Apparently, Naaman had anticipated some big, splashy miracle by Elisha. So, the story goes on, “he turned and went off in a rage.” But his entourage of soldiers and servants begged him,  “My father, if the prophet had told you to do some great thing, would you not have done it? How much more, then, when he tells you to go to the Jordan River, ‘Wash and be cleansed’!”  Long story short: He went. He washed. He was healed.

Please read the rich and multi-meaning story (2 Kings 5:1-15) in its entirety to experience the oh-so-human character of Naaman as well as his healing which, it turns out, was much more than skin deep. Here and now, I’m going to focus on one simple but significant lesson in it: How and why not succumb to “That’s too easy!” thinking.

“Just let go.” 

I know. You’ve heard it, if not said it, a million times. But all cliche aside, this saying holds great truth (which is why it became cliche in the first place, right?). Our lives become much less complicated and much more cathartic when we are willing to just let some things go. Some are just mole hills. But some of them are mountains. So, when we do so we often experience an immediate and sometimes lasting cumulative calm, depending upon the emotional “size” of what we’re letting go of. 

Of course, letting go will mean something different to each of us depending on what we’re holding--or hanging--onto. But when we are willing to consider doing so, clarity comes. We begin to perceive how, in small or big ways, our feelings of happiness and wellbeing--along with our attitudes and our altruism toward the world--improve immensely. Truth is, no matter how long we live, we’ll never stop needing to just let go of some things. No matter what our circumstances, doing so will never stop having a positive effect on virtually every area of our lives. So let’s get good at it.

One of the things that can lighten our load considerably is ridding ourselves of “That’s too easy!” thinking. As with all the THINK ABOUT HOW YOU THINK ideas I share with you, letting go of this rather deeply ingrained pattern (in fact, so ingrained that we’re usually not even aware we’re doing it) takes practice.  With Naaman, we have to “re-mind” ourselves--to THINK in fresh, healing ways. But it’s not hard. It’s actually easy--if we do so repeatedly until we come to this right-under-our-noses realization. What I’m suggesting is not hard by nature. If it’s difficult, it’s difficult because we’ve unwittingly (Read: unthinkingly) nurtured our own “This is hard!” thinking. Or worse, we think like Naaman, “This is too easy! It’s got to be hard to be worth doing!” 

Am I crazy? Or is this one of the real reasons we procrastinate--which, incidentally, is one of the things we don’t want to get good at. (Are you still with me?)


TODAY.
DO YOURSELF & THE WORLD A FAVOR.
TAKE TIME TO THINK ABOUT HOW YOU THINK.

Sunday, June 21, 2020

THIS IS EASY

Oops. I forgot to post my June 15 blog. Here it is...


I’m sure you know, you can get your own Staples “Easy” Button. It’ll look good on your desk and upon seeing it, most people will give it a tap. Fun? Yes. Good idea? Maybe. Flawless? Not so much. Why not? One small but significant technicality: Staples accompanying statement “That was easy!” puts its power in the past--after the fact. 

I suggest we promote their tagline to the present tense, “This is easy!” and expand upon the idea just a bit. Why? Because right now, in real time--when you and I are in the thick of whatever we’re doing or thinking--we can use it to shape-shift our thinking in a very positive and helpful direction.

I’m a “To Do” list person. Have been all my life--until a few years ago when I realized I’d created my own list monster: Dread. Over time dribs and drabs of dread had seeped into my daily “To Do” list so that I no longer had one. What I’d created instead was a “To Dread” list. I always dreaded some (and on some bad days all) of the items on my list. About that time Staples came out with its “Easy” button. I took advantage of their idea, tweaking it and my old “To Do”  (aka: “To Dread”) list became my “This is easy!” list.  After all, I realized, it was not the actual doing of an item on that list but how I PERCEIVED THE DOING OF IT that determined how I thought/felt about it--whether I should dread or dream it into completion. In short, the dread was all in my head.  

Why make this conversion in our real-time thinking? It instantly improves our attitude--which in turn unlocks our creativity. It de-stresses us. It focuses the full extent of our energies and abilities upon the task to be done. It enables a playful approach to doing things we don’t necessarily want to do. It brings up the needle on our “I love my life!” meter. And most importantly, it gets us out of ourselves and our penchant for constant ego gratification. By converting, we bring our best selves to the external circumstances of our lives--both personal and global.

I know it can be hard wrapping your head around this one. May sound a bit fluffy. And unfortunately, you can’t take my word for it. You have to consciously (literally, audibly?) focus your “This is easy!” thinking on whatever’s on your list. And you have to do it enough times to begin to retrain your brain. (But even this is easy--if you approach it with a “This is easy!” attitude.) One of the great things about making this seismic shift is how quickly you will discover that if you’re feeling stress you’re not applying “This is easy!’ thinking to it. Then--and only then--can you do something about it. 

Do I always remember to use this level of thinking? No. But every time I do--every time--it makes a difference. And the more I use it, the more applications I find for it. Funny, I’ve noticed that once I commit this approach to some task--especially one of the unpleasant ones--I often find I make an audible, though unconscious, sigh of relief. Hmm.

TODAY.
DO YOURSELF & THE WORLD A FAVOR.
TAKE TIME TO THINK ABOUT HOW YOU THINK.









Friday, June 19, 2020

BLUR

Friday morning greetings to all...


The mother of all turtles.
It's day three and she’s back.
This time, I think, to lay her eggs.
To give of her life. To pay it forward.
She’s been nesting here
just a few feet away from me
since well before morning’s first light.
Every movement pain-stakingly slow.
Purposeful. Progenitive.
Preordained?

She’s back.
In the grand scheme of things,
is this her one must that matters?
To lay her precious little ones
at the sandy edge of a rocky ledge
where they’ll cartwheel down
and plop into the pond;
their opening scene
of this surprise
we call
Life.

She’s back.
What an honor to witness
this act so intimate, so ancient;
this primordial passing of the peace
that’s been going on since long before rhythm,
gracing since long before the dawn of rhyme,
partaken of before my attending eyes.

She’s back.
Compared to her, my life’s a blur,
“And to what end?” I ask myself.
Is there more to me than she?
And why, in the whole of time and space,
so close an encounter between us?
Is her presence in itself a preaching?
Is it, too, for the giving of life,
for a purpose as holy as hers?

Do I, like she, have a reason to be
that lives beyond my blur?


Friday, June 12, 2020

SO

Greetings friends...just a short one today, but one I find helpful. I hope you will, too.


SO
So the mind.
So the body.
So wildly powerful when focused.
So paralyzed and feeble when distracted.
So like the lion trainer
whose flimsy four-legged chair
handily keeps bared fangs at bay,
so distractions can render
even the majestic might
of our physical powers
useless.

TODAY.
DO YOURSELF & THE WORLD A FAVOR.
TAKE TIME TO THINK ABOUT HOW YOU THINK.

Monday, June 8, 2020

TOOLS

What do the following...a computer, violin, paintbrush, fishing rod, metronome, sewing machine, thought, scalpel, book, spinnaker, fork, spreadsheet, language, football, meditation...all have in common? You guessed it. They’re tools.

What makes a tool a tool? I’m a tool guy...so I tend to think of almost anything as a tool. Hammers. Screw drivers. Saws. All of the above. But if we spread eagle our thinking a bit the answers become even more engaging...NASA/SpaceX partnerships...Covid-19 vaccine...social protest. Whether simple or sophisticated, individual or collective, tools are extensions of ourselves--products or adaptations of our imagination--that expand our human pleasure and potential. Sometimes exponentially so.

So I have a riddle for you: What comes standard issue, yet is the most valuable tool each of us will ever wield. In fact, we use it 24/7. It’s so simple to operate that a child can do it (sometimes better than us adults) yet so sophisticated that it can complete multiple functions on multiple levels simultaneously for us whether we’re awake or asleep. It’s so essential that our bodies can’t function without it for a nanosecond. We need it to operate absolutely every other tool of every other kind we’ll ever create. We can even use it to autocorrect. Yet, we often operate as if we don’t have one!

What is it? Right again. Our mind.

Then, doesn’t it make sense to get to know its full capacity...to properly maintain and care for it...to regularly sharpen and improve it...to frequently explore new ways of using it--in short, to make the very most of its power and potential every single day?

Just thinking.

TODAY.
DO YOURSELF & THE WORLD A FAVOR
TAKE TIME TO THINK ABOUT HOW YOU THINK.

Friday, June 5, 2020

JOY

Greetings...and some thoughts on one of my favorite subjects.

Joy is not the way out; the escape.
It’s the way in; the engagement.
Joy doesn’t cajole us into the shallow.
It calls to us from the deep.
Joy doesn’t try to distract us from the din.
It begs us to follow it into the fray.
Joy is not just over there--that summit’s crystalline shimmer.
It’s also right here, in this misty hidden valley.
Joy is not just omega, the end result.
It’s also the alpha, the beginning premise.
Joy is not just the coming home.
It’s the setting out, the journey about.
Joy doesn’t need the entire cast center stage in glaring lights.
It only needs a solo spirit in the dark.
Joy doesn’t require conditions or criteria.
It only requests a modicum of contentment.
Joy doesn’t require a sage’s wisdom.
It only requests a child’s wonder.
Joy doesn’t long for accolades or applause.
It just thanks you for the honor of your presence.
Joy doesn’t leave when the party is over.
It lingers, “Come. Sit. Tell me of your losses and your loves.”

Monday, June 1, 2020

WHY POWER

Never mind “will” power. Too frail and fickle. Too unreliable and susceptible to stress. Gone just when we need it most. Besides, it easily distracts us, shifting our focus from whatever we needed it for to “What’s wrong with me? I have no will power!” at which point we go for a quick, if paralyzing, spin on our “loser” loop. 

But “why” power. That’s different. Pausing to consciously ask ourselves, “Why am I doing (or thinking) this?” instantly brings clarity to our thoughts and instantly illuminates our motivations (good, bad and ugly). It’s like doing a sound check on the brain.

How do we tap into our “why” power? Simple really. It may even sound trite--until we try it. And not just once but again...and again. Remember when you were a kid and asked your mom or dad “Why?” incessantly? Like that.

Yes, we’ve all done this before, especially when facing life’s biggest decisions or dilemmas (e.g. marrying, moving, making career changes). But have you asked it of yourself today--with what you’re doing right now? Have you asked it repeatedly? When was the last time you actually penned or pecked out a list of 25 reasons for doing this, that or the other? 

Why power is different from will power in two potentially life-changing ways: 1. Connecting with our “whys” is always an inspiring and empowering experience...helping us realign with our deepest and most trustworthy self; 2. Connecting with our “whys” is a surprisingly enlightening exercise...ultimately helping us name not just our reasons for “doing,” but preeminently, our reasons for “being.” These are two connections we all desperately need to make right now as evidenced by current world events--and about which “will” power knows nothing.